The main way to tell if someone is in to or not is by their body language because 93% of the way we communicate is actually non-verbal. So, spotting their cues with their body language is the best indication of whether they like you or not.
I am going to share with you only a couple of the things that indicate this, because there are so many of these that I could do a whole video/blog post on body language alone.
Here are some of the top body language signs:
If someone turns themselves towards you to talk to you or to give you their attention (and they’re not always turning away from you or looking elsewhere), then that is an indication that they like you.
If someone leans in towards you, then they are wanting to get closer to you or they are wanting to actually hear what you are saying. That is a good indication.
For a woman, if she exposes her wrist (which is her softness, her vulnerability) to you, then that is a great indication. She might be moving her hair behind her ears and exposing her wrists to you (not that she knows that she is doing this mind you, it is totally unconscious).
For men they can tend to push their shoulders back and stick their chest out, and particularly if they get their thumbs and hook it through their belt loops, that is an indication that they are into you. And of course, they do not know that they are doing that, it is an unconscious instinct. Unconscious or not, that is a sign that they are into you.
Now the next big thing, or it could be the first really, as it is VERY important. And that is eye contact.
Eye contact is essential in telling if someone likes you or not. If someone is just fleeting their eyes around the room and talking but not really looking at you, then it is probably safe to say that they are not that into you.
(Although there are people that do have issues with looking people in the eyes and it might not mean that they’re not that into you. It could be that they just feel very vulnerable or not safe enough to look you in the eyes – and that is something that they need to have a little look at.)
But for me, eye contact is something extremely important. It is the way we see someone, it is the way we see into their soul, it is the way we pay attention, it is the way we create intimacy (which is “in-to-me-I-see”).
If someone is really into you, they’re going to be looking into your eyes and talking directly at you. You know yourself that if you are not really interested in someone, you might find yourself looking around the room and avoiding holding eye contact with them. So that is an extremely good indication if someone likes you or not.
They ask questions about YOU!
Another way of finding out if someone likes you or not is that they will ask you questions about YOU! They will want to find out more information (as much as they possibly can) about you. So, if they are not asking you questions and just talking about themselves or general things, then they may not be that interested in you.
However, if they are asking you questions like what you do, what you’re passionate about, about your day, about your family, about your friends, about your beliefs, about your values, or anything like that, that means that they are really interested in you because they want to find out all this important stuff about you.
Some other indications of someone liking you….
They might find an excuse to touch you and put their hand on you. If they are not into you, they are not going to be putting their hands anywhere near you. But if they do, they might find some kind of excuse to physically move you somewhere for example. If someone does like you, they will find some kind of excuse to touch you.
If they try to close the physical gap between you it means that they want to be closer to you because they are attracted to you.
If you catch the other person staring at you, or looking at you, or checking you out, that is an indication that they like you. Maybe catching them looking at you only once is not an indication because maybe they might be checking you to see if you are ok for them or not. But if you find them looking at you more than once or a few times, then they are probably attracted to you and dig you a little bit.
If they talk about the future and they reference you in it somehow, about going somewhere or doing something, then that is a good indication that they like you because perhaps they’re already formulating in their mind things that they want to do with you. So that is a good sign as well.
And of course, in the end if you are unsure if someone likes you or not you can always ask them! Some of you might be like…. no way, I’m not going to do that! But I always recommend at the end of a date that you tell someone where you stand (whether you like them or not, or whether you’re interested in having another date with them or not).
That is an easy way to find out – with no game playing. Put it all out there! It is scary I know…. there is always the risk of possible rejection, but I would rather know than not know that’s for sure. So, you can always just ask them!
So, there are some of the ways that you can tell if someone is interested in you or not. I hope that helps. But remember, if someone is interested in you, then you also need to find out if you are actually interested in them – because it has to be a two-way street. Right?
If you haven’t already, please watch my free masterclass on the “10 things that you can do right now to find the one”! It is a 52-minute video so make sure you have enough time to do it. Click here to get access.
Watch it straight away! I highly recommend it.
I hope that today’s video has helped. And remember that even though there might be a little part of you that has given up on finding love, I know that you CAN and WILL find it.
Bye for now!